That kind of
girl
Who appear strong and confident in front of the others
But deep inside
A nature as a girl
No
A human being
Hiding weakness at all cost
As not to appear vulnerable
That kind of girl
Who let emotions invade her mind and soul
When she’s happy, she’s happy
But when she’s sad
She tries so hard to hide them
But at times she fails to do so
And that’s why at time she’ll keep being silent
A silent treatment
Towards the others
So that they know they did something wrong
And for herself
So she can think of what to do and what not
That kind of girl
Who misses her parents while being away from home
Who cry over when her brothers are taken
Who try to wash her brain almost everyday
Just to convince herself that she’s not alone
Because she knows she has God
Although everyone’s going to leave her
She’s assured that He’s going to stay by her side
That kind of a girl
Who admires a person that doesn’t even exist in her world
Believing in fantasies so she could run away from realities
Who tries so hard not to fall in love with any man
But a man that everyone should love
That everyone should admire
That everyone should follow his sunnah
She’s still in the phase of knowing him
Sooner or later
Hoping that she’ll love him as much as he loves his people
That girl
She knows she’s not perfect
And knows that she is lacking in many things
So she just pray that she won’t bring harm to anyone
And asks for forgiveness if she did hurt anybody
As she was hurt too
But she knows that this world is a test
For her and for everyone else
And when the time comes
She prays that she’s going to meet every person
That ever exists in her world
In jannah
Written by;
That girl
Bismillahirrahmanirrahim
Assalamualaikum and greetings people of Earth. You can't be from Mars or Neptune, are you?
Back to our topic. Oh, don't be judgmental yet. It's not like I'm going to post any cheesy story of someone's marriage, or even mine cause obviously I'm still single and bear with me I am so skeptical when it comes to men. No offense guys.
I got some knowledge and I want to share. With those who are concerned about this thing, this fantasy (yes, I'm being honest as most of us were stuck between reality of this life and those romantic lines that only exist in books..and korean dramas. LOL)
I went to a Muslim Heroes program, first ever being conducted in IIUM Kuantan. And for the fact that it is free, why would not I join it right? Though the topic: DESIRES by Syeikh Tariq Appleby, more to coupling, marriage and stuff that do not even concern about me (at this moment), I just thought hey, maybe I can just come and hear a bit, gain some knowledge and maybe I can be a love counselor or something equal to that. Lol at me, but excuse you, it just a norm that non IIUM people always think that us IIUM people have these lots of knowledge regarding love, marriage and some other cases. I'm telling no we're NOT. Except for those who already get married. Find them yourselves. Oh wait. I bet you already knew. Meheh.
First of all, I think this is somehow a very familiar questions for us regarding dating in Islam. Are we allowed to do so?
OF COURSE!
What? Why whaaatt waaaaiitt a minute... Aren't Muslims are forbidden from doing so before you get married?
I forgot to tell you it is... for married couples! GAHAH!
Well yes, you probably say "I just go out, we don't even hold hand or whatsoever"..
But dear fellas, it's an emotional attachment we're talking about right here. It is something that much more powerful than physical contacts. This is from my POV. I think somehow our emotions can make us attach to someone strongly that somehow it may lead to unwanted acts by such couples just because the feelings of longing for each other become stronger each day. There are some people who like skinship (Korean term LOL) but some may not find any spark with those kind of acts. But along with emotions, love, desire, it may lead to another spark.
That was long. Sorry. But it's through my understanding. So if I'm wrong, do correct me. I'm just a human here. Learning from mistakes.
So HOW TO AVOID THIS?
Although you may have another reason, like we're gonna get married yeay~~ but excuse me sir, she or he is still not your legal spouse. Unless you bring along you parents or her parents. That I can call it as a truthful effort of getting married.
Secondly, Syeikh told us about Campus Da'wah Friendship.
Hold it! Why?! Isn't it a good thing to get involve in da'wah?
Yes, definitely! But what if the intention is different? What if the intention just to get to know this pretty, solehah girl in the society?
Ahah! That's the thing he's been talking about. My POV, well...if you do like her, then find a way to marry her and both of you can do da'wah together! Easy huh~
"But we're still young..."
Then...that's your problem. First of all, an act of da'wah should be for the sake of Allah. Secondly, it's for the ummah (this is a reminder for myself fyi). Getting married to a righteous man or woman, well...it's a good purpose in one's life but don't make it like the utmost goal in your life. NO. There's more about a Muslim's life than just getting married.
So, to avoid from thee getting involve in such cases; though if you get married then Alhamdulillah no need to worry 'cause I'm talking about people who make such promises to get married but ended up not doing so) you can start by keeping your communication to what is necessary. Don't need to ask whether you have eat or not? How's the weather blablabla. Just stick to your point and then walk away.
Syeikh also reminded us to avoid joking. To joke with such intention to attract the opposite gender is wrong because you have such intention. But it's not that Islam prohibit from joking? NO... You can make jokes to make others happy but not just simply to hit on girls. Of course you can joke around with your wife freely so no worries. You'll have her/him all by yourself right?
There are some more but I think I'll continue the post later. Just because I'm in the midst of preparing from End Block Examination.
Why do you have so much examinations Miss?
You can ask that to my Kulliyyah. I don't even get any holidays (╥_╥)
Assalamualaikum and greetings people of Earth. You can't be from Mars or Neptune, are you?
Back to our topic. Oh, don't be judgmental yet. It's not like I'm going to post any cheesy story of someone's marriage, or even mine cause obviously I'm still single and bear with me I am so skeptical when it comes to men. No offense guys.
I got some knowledge and I want to share. With those who are concerned about this thing, this fantasy (yes, I'm being honest as most of us were stuck between reality of this life and those romantic lines that only exist in books..and korean dramas. LOL)
I went to a Muslim Heroes program, first ever being conducted in IIUM Kuantan. And for the fact that it is free, why would not I join it right? Though the topic: DESIRES by Syeikh Tariq Appleby, more to coupling, marriage and stuff that do not even concern about me (at this moment), I just thought hey, maybe I can just come and hear a bit, gain some knowledge and maybe I can be a love counselor or something equal to that. Lol at me, but excuse you, it just a norm that non IIUM people always think that us IIUM people have these lots of knowledge regarding love, marriage and some other cases. I'm telling no we're NOT. Except for those who already get married. Find them yourselves. Oh wait. I bet you already knew. Meheh.
First of all, I think this is somehow a very familiar questions for us regarding dating in Islam. Are we allowed to do so?
OF COURSE!
What? Why whaaatt waaaaiitt a minute... Aren't Muslims are forbidden from doing so before you get married?
I forgot to tell you it is... for married couples! GAHAH!
Well yes, you probably say "I just go out, we don't even hold hand or whatsoever"..
But dear fellas, it's an emotional attachment we're talking about right here. It is something that much more powerful than physical contacts. This is from my POV. I think somehow our emotions can make us attach to someone strongly that somehow it may lead to unwanted acts by such couples just because the feelings of longing for each other become stronger each day. There are some people who like skinship (Korean term LOL) but some may not find any spark with those kind of acts. But along with emotions, love, desire, it may lead to another spark.
That was long. Sorry. But it's through my understanding. So if I'm wrong, do correct me. I'm just a human here. Learning from mistakes.
So HOW TO AVOID THIS?
Although you may have another reason, like we're gonna get married yeay~~ but excuse me sir, she or he is still not your legal spouse. Unless you bring along you parents or her parents. That I can call it as a truthful effort of getting married.
Secondly, Syeikh told us about Campus Da'wah Friendship.
Hold it! Why?! Isn't it a good thing to get involve in da'wah?
Yes, definitely! But what if the intention is different? What if the intention just to get to know this pretty, solehah girl in the society?
Ahah! That's the thing he's been talking about. My POV, well...if you do like her, then find a way to marry her and both of you can do da'wah together! Easy huh~
"But we're still young..."
Then...that's your problem. First of all, an act of da'wah should be for the sake of Allah. Secondly, it's for the ummah (this is a reminder for myself fyi). Getting married to a righteous man or woman, well...it's a good purpose in one's life but don't make it like the utmost goal in your life. NO. There's more about a Muslim's life than just getting married.
So, to avoid from thee getting involve in such cases; though if you get married then Alhamdulillah no need to worry 'cause I'm talking about people who make such promises to get married but ended up not doing so) you can start by keeping your communication to what is necessary. Don't need to ask whether you have eat or not? How's the weather blablabla. Just stick to your point and then walk away.
Syeikh also reminded us to avoid joking. To joke with such intention to attract the opposite gender is wrong because you have such intention. But it's not that Islam prohibit from joking? NO... You can make jokes to make others happy but not just simply to hit on girls. Of course you can joke around with your wife freely so no worries. You'll have her/him all by yourself right?
There are some more but I think I'll continue the post later. Just because I'm in the midst of preparing from End Block Examination.
Why do you have so much examinations Miss?
You can ask that to my Kulliyyah. I don't even get any holidays (╥_╥)
Bismillahirrahmanirrahim
Assalamualaikum wrh and greetings people.
Hah! Saje buat title tah mende tu..
Oh okay. Back to English. Mweheh.
So, this weekend I decided not to go back since last week I already did. Which btw if I did go back, I would have some more time at home as we're going to a zoo visit next Monday. Yehet (?) But I was afraid that I would not be studying. So, yeah.. study sangaaaatt...
No, it's not just for a fun visit. Do you think going to a zoo is fun? But the fact we'll be having a comparative dental anatomy, so it's for the sake of learning. yeeeaaaayyy *spiritless*
Because I'm here in Kuantan, I have to ride the bus along with my classmates. I like the idea of travelling with my mates but I don't think it'll be any more exciting as we have to be awake by 4.00 am. Whhhaaahhaaaaattt Σ(ಠิωಠิ|||)
Nope. Not amusing at all.
Ah, and last two weeks I went for a school visit program. It was nostalgic?
Why?
Because I miss Pepias every time I'm doing a program.
Seriously guys, don't you ever miss me? ಥ_ಥ
Assalamualaikum wrh and greetings people.
Hah! Saje buat title tah mende tu..
Oh okay. Back to English. Mweheh.
So, this weekend I decided not to go back since last week I already did. Which btw if I did go back, I would have some more time at home as we're going to a zoo visit next Monday. Yehet (?) But I was afraid that I would not be studying. So, yeah.. study sangaaaatt...
No, it's not just for a fun visit. Do you think going to a zoo is fun? But the fact we'll be having a comparative dental anatomy, so it's for the sake of learning. yeeeaaaayyy *spiritless*
Because I'm here in Kuantan, I have to ride the bus along with my classmates. I like the idea of travelling with my mates but I don't think it'll be any more exciting as we have to be awake by 4.00 am. Whhhaaahhaaaaattt Σ(ಠิωಠิ|||)
Nope. Not amusing at all.
Ah, and last two weeks I went for a school visit program. It was nostalgic?
Why?
Because I miss Pepias every time I'm doing a program.
Seriously guys, don't you ever miss me? ಥ_ಥ
Bismillahirrahmanirrahim
Assalamualaikum and greetings earthlings.
Haaaaa...It's been awhile since the last time I updated this blog. Who even read this anyway? LOL.
So, the ongoing weeks gonna be hectic! Though our schedule is not that packed with classes still, lots of programs to be handled and some stuff to do that need me to go back to my hometown.
When will I get my car...
Okay, no whining. You'll get it when you get it.
The nearest one will be our school visit. I think it has been a year I ever visit any school for a program. I used to handle school programs with Pepias (I missed pepaya so much that I kept thinking of them lately). But this is a first for me as a secretaryyang tak buat keje sangat pun eh? Haha. I've done my portion, Alhamdulillah. So hopefully the participants will gain lots of benefits and experiences from this program. I think it should be very much useful for the students, inshaAllah.
Ah, and I got to meet Iman and Kyla last week before their winter break ends around this March. Kyla will fly back to Korea this week and Iman will fly back to Japan on the upcoming week. When will I visit you guys there? One day perhaps.. Amin~~ *melong~
Oh and yeah..another video has been assigned to us. But this time only responsible for video shooting and the rest, well I'll leave them to the head of video team. He knows a lot more than me. of course.
This one is to show our support for KOD's team in the upcoming match (inter-kulliyyah and inter-varsity).
So go go KOD! Hwaiting! Innallaha ma'ana!
And since this is my 3rd block here, I'm planning to struggle some more. I mean study harder (but heol...I didn't). When will I learn from my mistakes? (╥_╥)
Assalamualaikum and greetings earthlings.
Haaaaa...It's been awhile since the last time I updated this blog. Who even read this anyway? LOL.
So, the ongoing weeks gonna be hectic! Though our schedule is not that packed with classes still, lots of programs to be handled and some stuff to do that need me to go back to my hometown.
When will I get my car...
Okay, no whining. You'll get it when you get it.
The nearest one will be our school visit. I think it has been a year I ever visit any school for a program. I used to handle school programs with Pepias (I missed pepaya so much that I kept thinking of them lately). But this is a first for me as a secretary
Ah, and I got to meet Iman and Kyla last week before their winter break ends around this March. Kyla will fly back to Korea this week and Iman will fly back to Japan on the upcoming week. When will I visit you guys there? One day perhaps.. Amin~~ *melong~
Oh and yeah..another video has been assigned to us. But this time only responsible for video shooting and the rest, well I'll leave them to the head of video team. He knows a lot more than me. of course.
This one is to show our support for KOD's team in the upcoming match (inter-kulliyyah and inter-varsity).
So go go KOD! Hwaiting! Innallaha ma'ana!
And since this is my 3rd block here, I'm planning to struggle some more. I mean study harder (but heol...I didn't). When will I learn from my mistakes? (╥_╥)
Bismillahirrahmanirrahim.
Assalamualaikum and salam ukhuwah to all.
The widest wireless connection is pray. From us to Allah.
Post exam, some things I regretted. It's not the result. It's more to how I deal with my own feelings when I received it. This heart is sick man~ Seriously, I need to reflect. More seriously, I need to ask His forgiveness.
Maybe I was forgotten the fact of learning; the true purpose. Maybe I abandoned the ummah without taking any initiative to at least know about the current issues. Maybe I was too immersed in this tempting world. I was wrong in many things; and I didn't learn from my mistakes.
A true muslim won't fall in the same hole again, supposedly like that right? What I'm doing is none other than keep repeating to fall over and over again. Again, I'm not talking about my studies (well, maybe some) but it's more about the whole me, and what I've become.
These days, like a call from my parents (which I will pick it up as they are important), it's just like that, a call from Him came to me once again. I need those calls always. Because human tend to forget. And I'm that kind of human. Always forgetful. Thus I need those who can remind me, not just watch me as I fall.
My words have their own meaning. It's like heart to heart talk. More likely a self reminder.
Oh, and don't worry. I passed the exam but some didn't meet my expectations. But I remembered this, as I pray, I asked for the best, not straight As. Come to think of it, I think I found the hikmah. Always, and I'll repeat again, always, put your hope and dua to Allah.
Assalamualaikum and salam ukhuwah to all.
The widest wireless connection is pray. From us to Allah.
Post exam, some things I regretted. It's not the result. It's more to how I deal with my own feelings when I received it. This heart is sick man~ Seriously, I need to reflect. More seriously, I need to ask His forgiveness.
Maybe I was forgotten the fact of learning; the true purpose. Maybe I abandoned the ummah without taking any initiative to at least know about the current issues. Maybe I was too immersed in this tempting world. I was wrong in many things; and I didn't learn from my mistakes.
A true muslim won't fall in the same hole again, supposedly like that right? What I'm doing is none other than keep repeating to fall over and over again. Again, I'm not talking about my studies (well, maybe some) but it's more about the whole me, and what I've become.
These days, like a call from my parents (which I will pick it up as they are important), it's just like that, a call from Him came to me once again. I need those calls always. Because human tend to forget. And I'm that kind of human. Always forgetful. Thus I need those who can remind me, not just watch me as I fall.
My words have their own meaning. It's like heart to heart talk. More likely a self reminder.
Oh, and don't worry. I passed the exam but some didn't meet my expectations. But I remembered this, as I pray, I asked for the best, not straight As. Come to think of it, I think I found the hikmah. Always, and I'll repeat again, always, put your hope and dua to Allah.
It's going to be alright. Not because you're strong. Not because I am. But because God is our Guardian, when all is crumbling - Yasmin Mogahed
Bismillahirrahmanirrahim.
Assalamualaikum and salam ukhuwah to all.
First of all, barakallahu lakuma wa baraka alaikuma wa jama'a bainakuma fi khair to my friend, Amnani and her husband. They got married last weekend but oh dear me who's just too lazy to do anything (even updating blog was a hard thing to do). Well, now I'm updating. Teehee~
I was happy yet felt insecure as I just realised I'm being old (okay, older) stuff like marriage or having anyone specific that you like or may be in a relationship become synonym to whoever reach this age (dude, I thought we're only 18, but reality hit me. Really hard. I know. FOREVER 21)
I was warned before by Kak Nana (I miss you fyi hehe) but wasn't expected to be asked earlier by the elders (No, not my parents. They know what kind of daughter they have. So yeah). As far as they are concerned about me, of course I am much more of concerns towards myself. Imagine that I still have another 5 years to finish my studies no, I'm not thinking of going any further than that but may be(?) and barely knowing anyone around me or maybe it's because I'm the one who built the wall, I don't really trust any man except my dad and my brothers really. Does this sounds like I'm desperate? No, I am sure I'm NOT. But hey...a fitrah is a fitrah.
The fact I'm not ready for any of these has stated what's on my mind. Even my mum doesn't allow me to get married at such young(?) age (maybe some of you consider as late, well it depends) I know she only want me to concentrate on my studies and nothing else matter (yang wajib tetap wajib).
Speaking of which, this topic has never been missed to be as hot as it should be since I entered my foundation years (around 18 or 19). Talking about what kind of man you would marry to, having kids, house, car, blablabla. Seriously...sometimes I feel like does it really matter? Of course. Yeah, I know. But to think of it, seriously...you don't even help out your mum when you're at home. Your room is a mess. You yourself is not really how to say (in a manageable situation) and you want to talk about marriage(?!). I think the first thing ever a person has to do is being matured (not in term of appearance but how they act and think). I know I'm not in the shoes to say this but at least I learnt the philosophy (at least that's what I think hoho).
And girls, perfect man only exist in books (except Rasulullah SAW, he's the most perfect man I ever heard of). Same goes to men, perfect girls like Saidatina Khadijah may or may not exist anymore. So it's up to us actually, perfecting ourselves instead of finding the perfect guy. It's not wrong to find 'the' good guy but I think it's wrong if you put too much hope. Not to forget, keep praying to Him. Allah knows who's best for us.
To my future husband (whom I still don't have LOL),
I don't write cheesy words until I found the one (I'm not searching for anyone right now please -talk to my nails)
I felt sorry to my future husband 'cause you're going to deal with a weirdo. I know *fanning myself
Assalamualaikum and salam ukhuwah to all.
First of all, barakallahu lakuma wa baraka alaikuma wa jama'a bainakuma fi khair to my friend, Amnani and her husband. They got married last weekend but oh dear me who's just too lazy to do anything (even updating blog was a hard thing to do). Well, now I'm updating. Teehee~
I was happy yet felt insecure as I just realised I'm being old (okay, older) stuff like marriage or having anyone specific that you like or may be in a relationship become synonym to whoever reach this age (dude, I thought we're only 18, but reality hit me. Really hard. I know. FOREVER 21)
I was warned before by Kak Nana (I miss you fyi hehe) but wasn't expected to be asked earlier by the elders (No, not my parents. They know what kind of daughter they have. So yeah). As far as they are concerned about me, of course I am much more of concerns towards myself. Imagine that I still have another 5 years to finish my studies no, I'm not thinking of going any further than that but may be(?) and barely knowing anyone around me or maybe it's because I'm the one who built the wall, I don't really trust any man except my dad and my brothers really. Does this sounds like I'm desperate? No, I am sure I'm NOT. But hey...a fitrah is a fitrah.
The fact I'm not ready for any of these has stated what's on my mind. Even my mum doesn't allow me to get married at such young(?) age (maybe some of you consider as late, well it depends) I know she only want me to concentrate on my studies and nothing else matter (yang wajib tetap wajib).
Speaking of which, this topic has never been missed to be as hot as it should be since I entered my foundation years (around 18 or 19). Talking about what kind of man you would marry to, having kids, house, car, blablabla. Seriously...sometimes I feel like does it really matter? Of course. Yeah, I know. But to think of it, seriously...you don't even help out your mum when you're at home. Your room is a mess. You yourself is not really how to say (in a manageable situation) and you want to talk about marriage(?!). I think the first thing ever a person has to do is being matured (not in term of appearance but how they act and think). I know I'm not in the shoes to say this but at least I learnt the philosophy (at least that's what I think hoho).
And girls, perfect man only exist in books (except Rasulullah SAW, he's the most perfect man I ever heard of). Same goes to men, perfect girls like Saidatina Khadijah may or may not exist anymore. So it's up to us actually, perfecting ourselves instead of finding the perfect guy. It's not wrong to find 'the' good guy but I think it's wrong if you put too much hope. Not to forget, keep praying to Him. Allah knows who's best for us.
To my future husband (whom I still don't have LOL),
I don't write cheesy words until I found the one (I'm not searching for anyone right now please -talk to my nails)
I felt sorry to my future husband 'cause you're going to deal with a weirdo. I know *fanning myself
